Strangers in the night

I am a creepily light sleeper. I went to bed early last night, not having much else to do and knowing I am working a ton right now, so sleep is best. I woke up to what I thought was someone trying my doorknob, and then footsteps on my downstairs front porch. I jumped out of bed and started turning on lights, and then peeked out the window. I saw a man rather drunkenly walking down my drive. He leaned against a fence.

I went downstairs to check that the alarm was set and everything looked in order, walked back upstairs, the man was gone. I was in a panic, wondering if I should call the police, but then not really knowing if the man was perhaps a friend of my roommates' (they are out of town this weekend), or if he was just at the wrong house, on and on and on. Then, a realization, that was The Ex, wasn't it?

Very likely, he got drunk, and since I have been ignoring his (not as frequent, thankfully) texts and calls, did what he does best, show up at my house unannounced. And then all I could think were thoughts of him trying to murder me in my sleep, of how he would do it, would it be murder-suicide? Why can't he get beyond this? I was very clear about the conditions of our relationship as I presently see it, and I also know that is not what he wants (this talk happening the last time he randomly showed up at my house. In retrospect, a bad idea to even answer my door, however, if you remember said night, he could see me painting through my bedroom window. No escape.). Thus I have been ignoring him.

This just feels out of hand. He cannot show up at my house whenever he feels! And last night, I was legitimately scared. I had no idea who was at my house in the middle of the night, and then when I realized it was very likely him, I started to panic about what this means. His need to ambush me, to corner me. To him perhaps it feels romantic, to pursue me this way, but to me, I'm more just worried. It feels like that Julia Roberts movie, Sleeping With the Enemy. And any J.Lo movie, really.

Course of action: ignore! ignore! ignore!